narcissism is something in the behavior of people, all in Western culture, not to observe rare. Yes our society promotes, to a certain degree of narcissistic Efforts, because without them is a progress almost impossible. But what happens when the narcissism determines the whole personality, when it is next to nothing else and become the person is a true narcissist? Then one speaks of the narcissistic personality disorder - it is this article. What is a narcissistic personality disorder? Edited by the WHO International Classification of Diseases and Related Health Problems (ICD) calls for the classification of the narcissistic personality disorder (in addition to the general requirements for personality disorders) at least five of the following points:
• Self for grandiose hold their own importance enormously exaggerate
• Is strong fantasies (power, money, success, beauty, etc.) dominated
• Believe in their own uniqueness that goes far beyond the normal human
• Depends excessive by the admiration of others. • Extremely high
make claims, special treatment
• Exploitative required in interpersonal relationships. Other people are sources in order to survive, the other is not even there at all. •
blatant lack of empathy (in extreme cases non-existent)
• sensation of very large Envy or the belief others are envious of a
• arrogance, haughtiness
What about now specifically the behavior of a narcissist (in the pathological sense) from? Narcissists have a self-image, building on its own grandiosity and invincibility, omnipotence and omniscience. They avoid this but claims they have qualities to the test. The narcissist is also raised to have to provide evidence. He avoids the competition and challenges to be raised about such things dar. The narcissist regards others as sources for his life, he can exploit at will, as they it a "tribute" owe, without, for that he in any way an consideration would provide. He is often sadistic, sadism, but used to make others more submissive, not because he finds pleasure in the pain of others, as the pure sadist. Other people are objects, not subjects, they have fulfilled their task, they are "disposed of" and replaced by other sources. The narcissist has no real connection to other people and mourns not for others, even if they should die. The body language of the narcissist is dominant, arrogant, lofty, he tries to portray itself superior, avoids physical contact, but can often last a very long eye contact, but he always keeps a distance from others, he is never authentic. Er spielt soziale Verbundenheit vor, ist aber zu Teamarbeit unfähig und spielt den Intellektuellen, den Professor, derjenige in der Gruppe, der niemals emotional eingebunden ist, sondern alles aus einer überlegenen Position heraus analysiert. Das gibt ihm das Gefühl über anderen zu stehen. Darauf angesprochen gibt der Narzisst vor über großen Gleichmut zu verfügen, ein kühler Kopf zu sein und dergleichen. In Wahrheit jedoch ist ein Narzisst ein sozialer Idiot, dem Empathie völlig fehlt, auch wenn er oft charmant sein kann und anderen Mitgefühl und Anteilnahme vorspielen kann. Der Narzisst ist ein Opportunist, er investiert Gefühle immer nur, um von anderen etwas zu bekommen, nie weil ihm am Wohl der anderen etwas content.
narcissists usually require special treatment, better conditions than other, better places in the restaurant, preferred treatment and do mostly with the leaders not to talk with employees, that would be beneath their dignity, they believe. The narcissist can not accept responsibility for his life, his illness, he takes on the behavior of others, the world, to forget the bad times and circumstances in which he returned alive. He presents himself as the "lone wolf", the idea would eventually be recognized by history. He pretends to be a kind of genius, but the world is too "stupid" to recognize this. Ordinary activities are hated him, he rejects routine, he needs entertainment. He has no stamina and can not make long term plans. Narcissists idealize others and evaluate them from behind. They praise, whom they need for their outsized need for respect and admiration. Do they have the other but "sucked", then turns to the narcissist from brutal and leaves the other alone with his grief.
narcissists sometimes refer to himself in third person, they talk about their lives as the life of another. You think too much, the only thoughts they revolve around themselves, but they do not feel they are emotionally crippled. They see their lives take place in a film, the film mostly a nightmare similar, but the narcissist feels the pain, it is dissociated, lived almost like outside of his body. His body feels the narcissist as a tool to use that he can, but he has no real integration of feeling one's own body as something foreign to him, the true self, says he, is far more noble and of such things as matter raised . The narcissist has an opinion of himself, which complies with reality, he often adorned with laurels and make the foreign services down others in order to better position itself. He evaluates not necessarily from obvious, but he can say another one painfully exaggerated praise, which in effect as eine Beleidigung wirkt – genau das, was der Narzisst in Wahrheit möchte.
Narzissten leiden an Aufmerksamkeitsdefiziten, sie leben meist nur in ihren eigenen Gedanken und nehmen in der Umwelt nur das wahr, was sie gerade brauchen, um etwas zu erreichen. Andere Menschen an sich sind ihnen gleichgültig. Sie meiden Menschen, die Probleme haben, um nicht um Hilfe gefragt zu werden. Um Hilfe zu bitten ist für den Narzissten erniedrigend. Doch er ist völlig abhängig von anderen, hat viel weniger Selbständigkeit, als normale erwachsene Menschen, deshalb muss er andere in Situationen bringen in denen er berechtigt ist von ihnen etwas zu fordern, ohne dass es so aussieht, als wäre der Narzisst bedürftig. Narzissten rationalisieren and idealize their lives, their failures are attributed to the environment, they themselves remain perfect, even if they do nothing. Narcissists have no personal boundaries and can thus also respect those of others, not for them, each other is a potential source of their narcissistic supply and the narcissist sees no reason why anyone should willingly for him (free) available . He feels entitled to demand anything from the world without giving anything back. He is a man who only takes and returns nothing!
narcissists are often very reactive, they are deadly serious and do not tolerate jokes about himself. They themselves are often cynical and sarcastic towards tolerate others, but not the least joke about it themselves, you are irascible and very easy to get het up about things that would result in a healthy person than to a small discrepancy. The narcissist is not even the feeling of being human, more of a higher being that has come to Earth to study the ordinary people. He feels constantly misunderstood. They are often paranoid, schizoid, antisocial, and often self-destructive addictions and perversions come with them often. Narcissists torment but usually only the narrow circle of their family and their social network, the very sources from which they draw their supply. For die Umwelt sehen solche Menschen meist recht normal aus, vielleicht mit kleinen Abweichungen. So täuscht der Narzisst die ganze Welt, meist sein ganzes Leben lang.
Narzissten sehnen sich oft nach Halt und finden den etwa in einer Religion oder einer strickten Ideologie. Sie unterwerfen sich dann und gehorchen den Regeln einer Institution strickt. Narzissten können nicht wirklich reife Entscheidungen treffen und sind sehr leicht verführbar von totalitären Systemen. So sind der Nationalsozialismus und der Kommunismus für Narzissten sehr attraktiv, denn so brauchen sie nicht zu denken, unterwerfen sich strickten, absoluten Regeln und gelten trotzdem als erwachsene Menschen. Die Welt des Narzissten besteht im Grund nur aus der Phantasie, sie leben nicht in reality, they bear a complete mental breakdown would amount to. The distance between themselves and the world is vital for them. In case of problems these people drift off into fantasy world. Narcissists are like children, they need others to achieve their goals. Typical is also that they want to destroy the reason for frustration. Narcissists have no private self. While most people in society play certain roles (job, at home, neighborhood, community, etc.), there is one exclusive area reserved for family and friends. Narcissists have such thing, they are always the same role, her life takes place on a stage and they are constantly under observation (usually by their parents through the oversized super-ego). They believe the normal rules and laws do not apply to them. In fact, "normal being" for something narcissists of the worst things they can imagine.
regard to sexuality, this is highly disturbed by narcissists. The narcissist craves but after nothing so much as for love, but his inability to intimacy it impossible for a healthy relationship. Thus, the narcissist uses others only for their own pleasure, the partner is a sex object, and only to satisfy his physical needs because no matter what he may say, he may yet so charming und „einfühlsam“ wirken, im Grunde geht es dem Narzissten um nichts anderes, als Sex zur Befriedigung seiner narzisstischen Bedürfnisse zu verwenden. Er ist nie demokratisch, kann den Partner nie als Menschen akzeptieren, fordert Bewunderung, Anbetung (manchmal unter Anwendung von Sadomasochismus, um den Partner willfährig zu machen). Narzissten sind autoerotisch, nichts turnt sie mehr an, als sie selbst. Auch für Inzest sind sie sehr anfällig, denn ihre eigene Familie ist ihnen selbst (genetisch) am ähnlichsten. Sexuelle Perversionen und Paraphilien sind häufig.
Der Narzisst ist ein Versager, ein Verlierer, doch dies hindert ihn nicht daran an seine „Mission“ zu glauben, daran, dass He is determined to be bigger. At least he thinks he should have a right to an easy life. Although he is (his narcissist himself is hard work) is not fundamentally opposed to hard work, but he refuses to do from subordinate activities to "serve" among others. Humiliation for the narcissist to endure a lot harder than for others, for the narcissist covers all its self-respect only from outside, he has no internal source of this. Humiliation is for him a soul equally threatened murder and his whole existence. It is then often react like an animal in danger. Due to the lack of self control freak narcissist can easily and huge Aggressionen zeigen, die für das Umfeld völlig unverständlich sind. Ist der Narzisst nicht mehr in der Lage seine innere Spannung zu kompensieren, kommt es oft dazu, dass er sich aus dem Leben völlig zurückzieht und keinen Kontakt mehr mit Menschen pflegt, die Welt ist für ihn ein gefährlicher Ort und scheinbar hat sich alles gegen ihn verschworen. Verschwörungstheorien sind recht häufig unter Narzissten anzutreffen. Manche werden schizoid arbeiten in abgeschlossenen, abgedunkelten Räumen mit Computer und Büchern und pflegen keine Sozialkontakte mehr. Der Narzisst kann trotz Fehlschlägen nicht mit seinem Verhalten aufhören, da aus seiner Sicht sein ganzes Dasein an seinem Verhalten hängt. Auch wenn er leidet, he has frightened but it is comfortable in his plight and change it a lot more than the known suffering.
the arrogance, dislike routine and the idea of everything to be legitimate, prevent the narcissist can be successful, it is socially an idiot, even if it should have a high IQ. Yet narcissists are basically stupid people, and quite predictable. They are easy to manipulate and often become victims of fraud and abuse. On the one hand, the narcissist feels superior to all others, overwhelming and admirable, on the other hand, he feels his weakness, his helplessness over others and the world.
The narcissist ist kein erwachsener Menschen, sondern ein kleines Kind, er ist niemals reif geworden er ist ein puer aeternus (Peter Pan, Dorian Grey). Die Seele wurde in der Kindheit durch Traumata in einen Schockzustand versetzt, so dass sie nicht mehr weiter wachsen konnte. Gleichzeit hat sich ein falsches Selbst aufgebaut, das von nun an das Leben dominierte und allmählich zur ganzen Persönlichkeit wurde.
Das Verhältnis zu anderen Menschen gestaltet sich für den Narzissten sehr problematisch. Ein besonderes ist jenes zu den Eltern. Meist sind die Eltern die Verursacher des Kindheitstraumas und nicht selten sind sie selbst Narzissten oder Co-Narzissten (Narzissten, die von einem Narzissten abhängig, co-abhänig, sind). Die Eltern sind die Quelle the frustration, the narcissist knows this and hates his parents, often with all my heart, even if it takes care of her and lives with them. You're the cause of his trauma, his fault, his bungled life. But narcissists are not bound free of their parents, they are to them. Something special happens when parents die. The narcissist needs living parents, in order to hate them, so they can make accusations, but when they die, they leave him, which means that he loses a source of his narcissistic supply. For the narcissist's parents never die, their voices are pursuing burned into his mind and control it and even after her death, usually to the death of narcissists themselves dying parents, then the narcissist himself a child again, he feels like an orphan, he was again betrayed by their parents.
it is common that narcissists never move out of home, but remain forever in the parents (until they die), they refuse to grow up and take no adult responsibilities (job, relationships, family, etc.).
The ratio of children is also problematic. Children behave like narcissists and that is a normal part of development. They flirt for attention and think they are charming and invincible, brag, tricks and come through with that, you will forgive them, yes they are often encouraged to um ein gesundes Selbstwertgefühl zu bekommen. Der Narzisst ist im Grunde ein solches Kind, nur er ist erwachsen, bei ihm wird dieses Verhalten nicht mehr geduldet, er bekommt Probleme mit der Umwelt. Er hasst Kinder, er ist neidig auf sie, weil er sich selbst in ihnen sieht. Sie dürfen, was er nicht darf, sie bekommen, was ihm versagt wird. Neue Familienmitglieder werden von vielen Narzissten abgelehnt oder sie versuchen diese zu manipulieren, um von ihnen bewundert zu werden. In den ersten Lebensjahren darf ein Kind fordern, doch je älter es wird, desto mehr erwartet auch die Umwelt als Gegenleistung von ihm. Der Narzisst sieht dies niemals ein und bleibt ein Kind und hält sich auch berechtigt dazu, sein Leben lang fordern zu dürfen, ohne to anything must be asked of him.
The narcissist has no real friends. He may have acquaintances, but friendship requires empathy and such is not a real narcissist or hardly exist. He takes advantage of people who recognize their weaknesses, cheated, is unreliable, keeps his word - no friendship can stay that way. Narcissists never recognize the value and the ability of other people, they are only objects that can be used as desired by all, with no real value.
In later years, many narcissists commit mentally ill or under certain circumstances suicide. It is for them to survive the only way die Realität kann nicht mehr ausgehalten werden. Ohne falsches Selbst ist der Narzisst einem derartigen Übermaß an Schmerzen ausgesetzt, dass er sich nicht mehr integrieren kann, er bricht psychisch völlig zusammen. Gewöhnlich beendet der Narzisst sein Leben einsam, alleine und tief verbittert.
Der Kern des Narzissmus
All diese Betrachtung führen zur Fragen, was denn im Grunde im Zentrum der Narzissmus steht. Welche Grundhaltung besteht im Kern der Persönlichkeit eines Narzissten? Der Narzisst ist ein Mensch, der keine Ahnung hat, wer er wirklich ist. Er kennt sein eigenes Wesen nicht. Das Selbst des Narzissten ist ein großes dunkles Loch! Ein falsches Selbst ist so übermächtig (durch das Über-Ich) become that not even a fight with the real I gives, for this was crippled in childhood and the wrong I have taken the personality out and raped the people now permanently from the inside. But this is not recognized by the narcissist, for he is the wrong I am so familiar, it's his master, that he considers his true personality. It can not detect the falsehood. The narcissist is a slave, a slave of the false ego! The narcissist has given up his self-realization and his adulthood in favor of a slave driver (the false self). Depression, hopelessness, powerlessness felt by the narcissist always, by its inability grow up to be. He feels great shame, especially when he compares himself to peers who have achieved something. The origins of pathological narcissism
lies in childhood trauma. The dissociation results in response to childhood trauma. Deep in the inner narcissist hates himself and doubts deeply in itself. This is also the core of the whole personality disorder! Narcissism is a defense against this deep self-loathing! Narcissism is a form of post-traumatic stress disorder. The narcissist does not have its own soul or his own body, they have taken him through the false self, the slave of the narcissist is. He has no control over him, so he is also wonder if it is pulled slightly to account for what he has done. The narcissist loses his life, along with past and future of the false self. The narcissist is full of feelings of inferiority. He knows he should make a grown man and can not do anything yet, he is a child in the body of a man or a woman. The shame of it is boundless. The narcissist finds out sometimes, he's a nerd and he gets to do with fear: fear of how others react to him and fear, as he himself responding (not even after he is lord of himself).
The abuse of children can come in three different ways about. 1) coddling of the child (The child is addicted to it) 2) neglect of the child 3) real abused (sexual or not sexual, emotional, physical). Sexual abuse is not typical of what a narcissist was done in childhood, very often, however, is the emotional abuse. Abused Children internalize the voices of the abuser. Her life is spent related to votes against it. Parents are role models and children learn from positive and negative sense. Love the children learn from them, the parents are not in a position, the child probably the greatest difficulties with love and intimacy. The cause of Narcissistic Personality Disorder is due almost never in a single traumatic act, but (etc. addict parents, corporal punishment, humiliation) in a long series of abuses. If parents abuse children, then they themselves become children again, trying to deal with their own abuse.
therapy
The Narcissistic Personality Disorder is one of the mental disorders that are most difficult to treat. This is mainly because the patient is addicted to his fault, he even actually loves. In the therapy, he is not to be cured, but to deal with the difficulties of life better - In short: to be a better and more successful narcissist. Many therapists are refusing narcissists treat because of poor results and the unwillingness of the patients, moreover, the patient is lower and the therapist, because in his eyes, he is himself a "colleague" and has at least the same capabilities and the same knowledge. Most narcissists reject psychotherapy vehemently. Not infrequently, only the external intervention, for example by a court decision to mean that a narcissist ever gets to a therapist. Narcissists give her illness usually only in major life crises, and even then they soon fall back into their old patterns of behavior zurück, auch wenn sie bereits einiges an Therapie hinter sich haben.
Um an das wahre Selbst des Narzissten heran zu kommen ist sehr viel Anstrengung nötig. Viele Therapeuten haben es völlig aufgegeben dieses verkrüppelte Etwas hervorzukramen und dann damit zu arbeiten (das wahre Selbst ist meist nicht älter als fünf Jahre). Sie versuchen viel mehr ein völlig neues Selbst aufzubauen, ein neues wahres Selbst, mit dem der Patient besser in der Welt leben kann. In der Therapie muss der Narzisst einem anderen Menschen vertrauen, etwas, das er in der Regeln nicht kann. Er muss sich auch „unterordnen“ und anerkennen, dass der Therapeut mehr weiß und besser in der Lage ist ihm zu helfen, als er es selbst könnte. He must therefore recognize the superiority of another - how hard this is for the narcissist, is for this text so far has already shown. The narcissist is a huge super-ego dominated that has permeated his entire personality, even in the minds of his narcissistic personality.
must also recognize the narcissist that he, if he wants to be healthy, make friends with the "normality" of human existence must be. Normal is for the narcissist to be a humiliation, for it means he must be like the others, which he has previously always felt superior. In therapy, it is a matter that should not show the true self and develop and that the superego is slowed down and replaced if possible, so true I can gain control of the personality.
Initially, the narcissist to be his self-confidence. The typical rationalizations must be up, the patient recognizes the (frightening) reality of his life. Then begins the narcissist to see themselves realistically. This is done by using other people to tell him where this bluntly and honestly, as the patient's life looks like (friends, acquaintances, etc.). The narcissist is now the source of his addiction (narcissistic supply) on. Then the patient is so far that he can get involved in the actual therapy, with the intention wirklich geheilt zu werden und nicht nur um ein „besser funktionierender Kranker“ zu sein.
Die Gefühle des Narzissten sind „eingefroren“, in Wahrheit ist er nur in einer Linie gebunden: an die Krankheit selbst, in sie investiert er all seine emotionale Energie. Vorsicht ist auch dort gebunden, wo der Narzisst zwar seine Störung zugibt, aber keine Verantwortung übernimmt, sondern nur die Störung selbst für sein Leben verantwortlich macht. Der Narzisst auf dem Weg der Besserung muss zugeben, dass die Krankheit durch ihn selbst verursacht wurde und dass er auch dafür völlig gerade stehen muss. Das Verständnis der Störung bringt noch keine Besserung. Es genügt nicht, dass der Patient über she knows. True healing can only happen there, where the narcissist begins to feel real, feel the pain and express with words and not to "overcome". At the end of therapy the narcissist at best, not a narcissist, but a person who has (sacrificed) lost many years of his life on the altar of an idol (false self) is. He can grieve now recognizes his immaturity and may result in the constructive work to really grow up and take responsibility. He then recognizes his vulnerability, but he is free to realize themselves freely and to fulfill his destiny.
as effective forms of therapy have 12-step programs, EMDR (Eye Movement and Desentizitation Reprocession) and also sometimes found NLP. One must not forget that the underlying trauma disorder, so just those methods most likely are promising, dealing with post traumatic stress and level of such interference.
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